Post Institute

It's been one year since we came home from Ukraine with our adopted 13-yr-old daughter and the challenges we've had in trying to parent her have been, at times, overwhelming. When I saw the story about the woman who sent her son back to Russia I thought, "how could anyone do that?" and then ten minutes later I'm in a screaming match with my daughter about something silly and thinking I want to send her back or why did we do this? Of course, we are thankful that we have Bryan and the Post Institute at our finger tips, so we know we always have help when we need it. I can't tell you the number of times that I have opened up the Great Behavior Breakdown or From Fear to Love just to find the right advice for the situation I find myself in. Often times after applying the techniques things get better, then I analyze the situation and think to myself, "what should I have done differently?" Usually the answer is, I should have just loved her instead of trying to win. Man is that tough to do when all you want them to do is something simple like take a shower. Why does there always have to be a fight? I don't think the answer is simple except to say that the trauma she has experienced in her life triggers a stress reaction that drives the behavior. As Bryan has said many times in his lectures, audio programs and webinars, decrease the stress and you diminish the behavior. Well, I guess it is simple, but not easy.